No BS 101s: 3 words to get the most out of your life
It’s not Thank you, Please and Welcome….
‘’We decided not to give out promotions this year’’
‘’We typically dont offer discounts on this product’’
‘’We usually dont give out raises in the first year of employment’’
Does this sound familiar? Janine Driver — a famous TEDX speaker, heard these, but to her it sounded like:
‘’We decided not to go out to dinner’’
‘’We typically have 3 children’’
‘’We usually dont work on the weekends’’
Confusing? you’re not alone! What do these statements have in common?! the fact that none of them state an absolute fact, they state a possibility.
Remember this for later: DecidedLY because changes what was.
- Decided: Studies have proven that only 8% of people stick with New Year resolutions that they ‘’decide’’ to complete. What does this mean? it means — when someone decides something they havent done it yet! they are about to do it!
So if you hear the word decided from your boss, doctor, partner, child — know there is a green flag! this is your chance, listen carefully after this trigger word.
- LY words: What are these? typically words that end in ‘’LY’’ such as; usually, normally etc.
Recap to earlier, can you typically have 3 children? how does that even work? do you put one in a closet sometimes? probably not.
Listen carefully when you hear these, what someone is telling you is that most of the time, that is not possible, but sometimes, it is.
We only need it to work some of the time!
- Because: This is when you come in with your reasoning, after you hear uncertainty in your manager’s decision, your family’s refusal, your potential client hesitating and so on.
Manager: We have decided that we will not be giving out raises this year.
You: *See the green flag* Why is that?
Manager: We usually dont give out raises in the years where our profit is less than X%
You: *See another green flag* Ok, I understand that, but BECAUSE I have outperformed my cohort according to my progress report/onboarded a large client, it would be reasonable based on my performance to offer me a raise or a combination of raise and other intangible benefits
Remember, they are not saying NO, they are saying the door is 98% shut, but you still have that 2% to shove that foot in.
See what YOU did there? now go out and try it! the world is your oyster!